Friday, February 10, 2017

How to Get an Apology without a Fight in a Relationship





I was thinking about the word "Happiness" and this thought dropped in my mind and I feel like it won’t be fair keeping it to myself. Over the years I have attended several meetings that have shaped my mind and giving me the kind of mindset that I have today. So what has the word happiness got to do with my topic?

Everyone is one relationship or the other and we all experience some challenges in the process. Challenges come and go but how you make one feel afterwards is what will determine how well the relationship will continue. Challenges and fights either make a relationship or mar it. Either way is really dependent on our reactions.

If someone you really care about offends you in such a way you wish they didn’t, what would you do? Not so many people know how to handle situations when they are offended irrespective of the fact that they have knowledge and experiences in human relationship. Some things are not as difficult as we think; sometimes all we just need to do is think about the other person involved in the mess with you. There are simple ways to handle matters without causing more trouble. The simple word that takes care of this is "care." If you care enough about the one whose offense has caused some sort of grievance in your heart, all you need to do is express your grievances in such a way it communicates your displeasure to the person that offended you and help the person apologize. In most cases, people don't do this; they express themselves in such a way it gets the offender angrier than they were when they were offended by the offender’s offense.

An English saying goes “sorry is the hardest word.” This is not because it is hard to pronounce or spell, but because you have to admit that you have done something wrong. If you already know that saying the word “sorry” is hard why not help the person that’s suppose to say it to you even when you are not happy?

So my questions are, what are you trying to achieve? Are you trying to get an apology? Are you trying to stop the person from repeating the same offense? What exactly do you want? Maybe when you learn to answer these questions before you react to an offense, you will have a better style of expression that gets you the required result. If you ask me, I think it is always better to have the offender's feeling in mind (most especially if it's someone you really care about). Your expression should get the offender remorseful and not angry. That's the only way you will get an apology. Every relationship works better when those involved in it genuinely care about each other. Express yourself the way you want to but also think about the person you are expressing yourself to because.

Like a friend of mine would say “words are like stones, weigh them before you throw them.” This simply means the size of stone you throw shows the kind of damage you are trying to make.

It applies to both sexes. #ThinkAboutIt

Monday, June 3, 2013

I Hate My Boyfriend for What He Did To Me

It’s been over two years since the last time I heard a girl say to me that I hate my boyfriend. Well, this is not because it doesn't happen anymore or that guys have suddenly become so perfect that they don't offend their girls anymore, but because I have suddenly become so busy that I successfully locked myself away from the rest of the world. Well, I guess that is one of the sacrifices I have to make to be successful and I hope it hasn't gotten my girl to hate me in the process, I really hope so. I guess I’ll have to be a man and find out for myself. With the way it is I’m sure that is what you would love your boyfriend to do as well, right?

There is one thing I would like you to know before you hold on to your confession of hatred for your boyfriend. And that is the fact that boyfriends are not perfect and would always do things that will offend you in many ways that they might not even be aware of. If you have been offended by your boyfriend for too many reasons than you can even count and it has finally gotten to the extent where you can say without any iota of doubt that I hate my boyfriend, then something is really wrong somewhere which I am about to let you in on.

Monday, July 16, 2012

12 Most Important Dating Rules Any Guy Must Know



You are a guy who's always in a serious relationship. You're a guy who hasn't dated in years. Or maybe you're a guy who has never been successful with girls. Whatever your situation, there are a few common dating rules to follow when venturing into the courting jungle. These conventions even the stage, preparing you for success while secured your feelings. Women are skilled from day one in the art of courting warfare. They've got a physical and emotional strategy that you can never hope to match. But you will not be out-gunned should you correctly plan for the battle.

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Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Dating Tips: Lies You Have Been Telling Yourself About Dating



There is absolutely no one on the surface of the earth that appreciates or welcomes lies when they here one, this is why a lot of single people out there see honesty as a great dating  trait for anyone to have, which they see as a potential partner. But the case is always quite different when it comes to being honest with ourselves; it always proves difficult to keep up with the same standard with which we wish other people should have. Sometimes we sway from the truth a bit and sometimes we go to the extreme by deceiving ourselves with deliberate lies.
With all this lies always clouding the mind, it more than often prevents us from meeting that right person and starting a good relationship. So what are these lies you ask? Read on to find out this dating lies.

Friday, June 22, 2012

Dating Tips – The Secret of Dating Women Successfully



Dating women is not like the usual activities you are used to performing, most especially if this is your first time of doing so. Dating women is not as easy as switching your light socket on and off. It more like learning to play a musical instrument you have never tried playing before. It takes a lot of practice to master such instrument. When you start for the first time, all your actions won’t seem to make sense to you. Sometimes you may even feel as though you are just wasting your time and all your efforts are just for nothing. As you read on, you will notice that this is probably one of the best if it is not the best of all the dating tips you’ve ever read on the web.

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

How to Keep a Relationship without Working Too Hard



Everyone wants to have a good and healthy relationship but not every gets to enjoy such because of certain things that may arise as a result of staying with the one you love. We all get to hear some sweet words we often speak to each other like “I love you so much I don’t want to spend another  moment without you,” I wish we can run away to a place where there will be none other but two of us.” And blah blah blah. All this things may drive you crazy to want to be with the one you are in love with, but when this wish finally comes true and you get the opportunity you’ve been asking for and at the end of it all you may not really like all what you see and experience with your so called lover.
 

How To Get Over Your Ex – Simple And Effective Ways To Stop Thinking About Her



Love is a beautiful thing and anyone who finds a partner to share it with is blessed. But a situation where the love start waxing cold rather strong and lead to break up, what do you do next? This is the reason I am writing on this topic how to get over your ex.
This question has plagued the mind of young and even old lovers to look for answers to that really solves this problem. But due to too many conflicting advice on the internet, some are confused and still do not know what to do.