I was
thinking about the word "Happiness" and this thought dropped in my
mind and I feel like it won’t be fair keeping it to myself. Over the years I
have attended several meetings that have shaped my mind and giving me the kind
of mindset that I have today. So what has the word happiness got to do with my
topic?
Everyone
is one relationship or the other and we all experience some challenges in the
process. Challenges come and go but how you make one feel afterwards is what
will determine how well the relationship will continue. Challenges and fights
either make a relationship or mar it. Either way is really dependent on our
reactions.
If
someone you really care about offends you in such a way you wish they didn’t,
what would you do? Not so many people know how to handle situations when they
are offended irrespective of the fact that they have knowledge and experiences in
human relationship. Some things are not as difficult as we think; sometimes all
we just need to do is think about the other person involved in the mess with
you. There are simple ways to handle matters without causing more trouble. The
simple word that takes care of this is "care." If you care enough
about the one whose offense has caused some sort of grievance in your heart,
all you need to do is express your grievances in such a way it communicates
your displeasure to the person that offended you and help the person apologize.
In most cases, people don't do this; they express themselves in such a way it
gets the offender angrier than they were when they were offended by the offender’s
offense.
An
English saying goes “sorry is the hardest word.” This is not because it is hard
to pronounce or spell, but because you have to admit that you have done
something wrong. If you already know that saying the word “sorry” is hard why
not help the person that’s suppose to say it to you even when you are not
happy?
So my
questions are, what are you trying to achieve? Are you trying to get an
apology? Are you trying to stop the person from repeating the same offense?
What exactly do you want? Maybe when you learn to answer these questions before
you react to an offense, you will have a better style of expression that gets
you the required result. If you ask me, I think it is always better to have the
offender's feeling in mind (most especially if it's someone you really care
about). Your expression should get the offender remorseful and not angry.
That's the only way you will get an apology. Every relationship works better
when those involved in it genuinely care about each other. Express yourself the
way you want to but also think about the person you are expressing yourself to
because.
Like a
friend of mine would say “words are like stones, weigh them before you throw
them.” This simply means the size of stone you throw shows the kind of damage
you are trying to make.
It
applies to both sexes. #ThinkAboutIt
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